Just another week of routine, a weekend break from routine, and ongoing self reflection and personal growth

This past week was pretty low key.  Teaching went well.  Friday after work there was a staff social at a restaurant called Jing-A where I got some good beer and a cheeseburger.   Faye and I spent the weekend together which was nice for the majority of the time.  We had a really nice and relaxing weekend.  She came over on Friday night and we had a good evening of relaxing and ordering delivery food. On Saturday morning I went to Snake Pit to pack the beer cooler for the hash, which I skipped, then went swimming while Faye slept in.  In the afternoon and evening we had a great time visiting Nantou Old Town and sipping wine in Zhongshan Park.  When the sun set on Saturday we went to OCT where we visited a couple bars before ending the night at George and Dragon in SeaWorld.  It was nice turning off my alarms and going with the flow all weekend.  On Sunday afternoon we got our nails done and Faye had me try durian for the first time.  It was delicious.   

All was peaceful and pleasant until Sunday night when I got upset with her for keeping us up past midnight when we both had to wake up early for work Monday morning. I won't rehash the whole argument here but will admit that I expressed my frustration in an unhealthy way. On Monday I apologized and expressed remorse for expressing my frustration with her inappropriately but insisted that she work on the things that frustrate me. In particular I need her to take less time getting ready for bed on work nights. 

I am working very hard on myself by listening to and reading articles on healthy expression of anger.  I am taking the time to meditate using anger management affirmations.  In doing my best to release myself from rigid routines and schedules on the weekend I am finding it easier to relax when she takes her time, but still need her to recognize the importance of getting enough sleep and sometimes having and sticking to a plan. 

I hope I can make improvements to myself and be a better partner to her.  I hope that we can both learn from each other and continue to grow together. I won't see her next weekend because she works on Sunday and I am planning to go to DongGuan for an away hash. However, we planned a trip to Xunliao Beach in Huizhou over the three day weekend I have from April 28th-May 1st.  This will be a great chance for us to turn off all alarms and just relax. 








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